Saturday, September 27, 2008

Adopted = Wanted and Chosen

(I speak as an adopted child, not an adoptive parent so if my suppositions are not accurate I apologize.)

There are no unplanned adoptions.

There are children from unplanned pregnancies, or pregnancies that were more or less intentional and then, those children who've resulted from a very intentional desire to have a child.

Adoption can be like the choice to get pregnant; there is this desire for a child and action towards that end and then the uncertainty of how things are developing. A pregnancy however is usually a set amount of time, a certain procedure whereas an adoption hasn’t this set time frame and involves from start to finish many deliberate actions

The one thing though that all pregnancies have in common and that is that pretty much when your child is born – you have a child. Period.

There are no “call backs”, no return policy, no Plan B.

You are now a parent and have both the privilege and responsibility of taking care of this person.

My mom had told me about when I came into their lives. There had been a previous baby that had fallen through at the very end. Then the day came that they received a call about me; I was to be theirs if they wanted. I’d be in their arms tonight if that was still their desire…

They could have still said “No”.

Up until that very last moment there was the ability to walk away and say, “Thanks but no thanks.”

To adopt is to choose and to pursue and to “take responsibility for a child with a spotted past and a dubious future.

God has adopted you.
God sought you,
found you,
signed the papers and
took you home.” (Max Lucado- The Great House of God)

“Even before he made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in his eyes. God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure. So we praise God for the glorious grace he has poured out on us who belong to his dear Son. He is so rich in kindness and grace that he purchased our freedom with the blood of his Son and forgave our sins. He has showered his kindness on us, along with all wisdom and understanding.” Ephesians 1:4-9

Perhaps this truth will not strike you as it has me. I was unwanted by someone but wanted by someone else, longed for, and deliberately chosen to be a part of their family.

We, who are the children of God, have all been desired, longed for, snatched from death and given life, through the sacrifice of Christ on the cross, in order to become children of God.

When it was the time for the Cross, could not Christ have said, “You know, I think I’ll pass…”?

So maybe today, for just a moment, revel in the fact that your relationship with God didn’t just happen, it wasn’t a “oops” or an “oh well”, it is intentional.

You are a child of God because God wants you.


joan patz said...

Very Well put. One of our adopted boys favorite Song I'm adopted by Ron Hamelton. They have been adopted twice just as you have been. How blessed that you were adopted by the fishers and lived next to the Patzs I will forever have wonderful memories.
With love

party of eight said...

whatever mom, that is DAD's favorite song.

anyways, becky, i have been meaning to tell you that this post was beautiful. i really enjoyed it, and jason too. so meaningful coming from you!

like my mom says... we have WONDERFUL memories with you. i remember you would tell us Bible stories from the perspective of jacob the squirrel and it has FOREVER made an impression on me. i remember you telling us of Christ's crucifixion and you had us taste vinegar. i actually used that illustration with my kids.

love you, tired, going to bed!